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Often you hear about couples who love each other but do not know how to show and express their love in order for their partner to understand and receive exactly the message he/she wants to give. This is because we all have our own love language. What is a love language? It is the way in which we express our feelings of love. We feel loved once the person besides us is communicating in our love language.
Gary Chapman, a longtime relationship counselor, wrote this exceptional book “The Five Languages of Love” explaining that we all have a primarily love language which we need to identity. Once this is done, identify your partner’s love language and if it is different, learn it! It is like learning a foreign language, for most of us it is something new which we don’t understand.
Step 1 : study the 5 love languages and identify your which is your primarily.
Step 2: identify your partner’s primarily love language
Step 3 : learn your partner’s primarily love language and express through it
And now, let’s see the 5 love languages:
1. Words of Affirmations
These may be verbal compliments, kind words or encouraging affirmations such as “You look so good in that suit!” or “I really appreciate that you washed the dishes tonight!” or “thanks for helping me on my project!” or “Your work is fantastic. You will surely succeed on your project, you can do that!”. These are spoken regularly, simple and clear.
2. Quality time
It is about the time spent together with your partner in which you offer him/her your attention 100%. Having activities which he/she likes, for example going to concerts, to movies, having lunch together, going on trips in the weekend just the two of you. It is about enjoying to be together and doing everything together with a positive attitude. It can also be a quality conversation based on what we are hearing , asking questions wanting to understand the feelings, thoughts and desires of the other, listening sympathetically.
3. Receiving gifts
Gifts come in all sizes, covers and shapes, expensive or free. Make a list of the gifts that your spouse has been given of which he/she was delighted, it may be gifts offered by you or anybody else. Don’t wait for a special occasion for offering them.
4. Acts of service
This is about helping and doing things for your partner for expressing love. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, washing the dishes, gardening etc.
5. Physical touch
Hugs, kisses, holding hands and sexual intercourse, for some of us these are the ways in which we like our partner to express in order for us to feel loved and secured. If so, this means your primarily love language is physical touch.
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Find here a quiz so that you can know in which category you are: http://365tests.com/personality-tests/what-is-your-love-language/.
So, which is your love language? Did you test your partner? Did this help?
Watch these amazing energy lights….
The Northern Lights, or aurora borealis, are by far one the most majestic and awe-inspiring natural phenomena we can enjoy during our time on this Earth. Like spirits in the sky, they enchant and entrance us, keeping us up for hours on end as they move through the sky, disappearing and reappearing again with sudden and surprising new patterns.
Capturing them involves a combination of factors: keeping a keen eye on the data (you’ll find a list of Aurora Watching Web Resources here), being ready when the light show begins (even if it’s 3am…), and finding clear, dark skies to optimize your chances of seeing them. Luckily, here in the Canadian Rockies, we have very little light pollution, so when conditions are right, you’ve got a good chance of seeing them.
Here are ten of my favourite aurora images from the past year! For me, having people in the shots adds scale and…
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Motivation is the energy and power given by a clear goal that you settled, given by an immense desire to achieve or to have something which you don’t posses in the present. It is about you and your future. It is about making a change: change yourself, change others, overcome your limits.
But how do you find this energy in yourself? How do you activate it? How do you nurse it?
Discovering yourself is a lifetime process. But in order to be inspired and set a goal, to take action and to achieve, you need to believe in yourself. And in order to do that you need to know yourself. What do you like? What do you dislike? What do you think about yourself? How do other people see you? What are your talents? What do you like to do/work/create? What are your expectations? What can you do or what you can’t do? Once you know that, you have your goals clear in your mind, you know what you need, what you want to become and why is that important.
2. Set a goal
Clear, simple and big! Big enough to make you stretch knowing that this will bring you happiness, independence, balance and satisfaction. The fact that you settle a goal means that you want more, more from yourself. It means that deep inside there is something in you which has not been discovered and valued, it is something that needs to come at light.
Goals can be short-term, middle-term and long-term. Make a plan with these 3 categories. This will help you be constantly on the track. Of course you will change them on the way because you will change or because you will discover yourself. You will see that whatever you think now is the precious thing missing, maybe it is not really the key.
3. Practice and develop your abilities
It is necessary to practice and develop the following abilities: desire, focus, observation and flexibility.
Desire is the force which will help you get beyond your comfort zone and will give you the drive and willing for change. It will also be a meaning for all your efforts and will give you the strength to overcome all the obstacles.
Focus will help you stay on track keeping in mind your goals and objectives. It will help you concentrate on our goal and get rid of negative thoughts, influences and most important fear.
Observation is the ability which can help you analyse what is happening around you and within. You need to analyse your actions, emotions and thoughts in order to be focused on what you want to accomplish.
Flexibility will help you change on your way so that you will succeed. It is the ability to make your journey easier, to embrace opportunities, to change whatever is necessary inside or outside.
Practice and develop them by reading motivational materials and listening to them everyday! Listen to success stories, people that have made a difference, people that know that even though it is hard to change, it is worth it! In your way to work and back, when you take your dog for a walk, when you exercise, when you eat, 5 minutes if you have, choose any motivational video from http://www.youtube.com and listen to it.
4. Don’t harm yourself with negative thoughts
We deliberately harm ourselves with negative energy whether it is with negative affirmations that we pronounce daily or discouraging ourselves thinking whatever we think, act or want is wrong, that we are not worth it, that we affect other people simply because they don’t understand our needs. We do that often and unlimited, usually without knowing it. And here comes the power of observation and analysis. Once we realize we do this, we need to stop and change. Whatever your limitations are in this moment, they are going to be forever until you change. “Hard times did not come to stay, they have come to pass” as Les Brown says. Everything is temporary, we all are as human beings.
Don’t harm yourself with fear and lack of self-worth. These negative energies will block your way through new opportunities since you will not be able to see them, appreciate their values and embrace them. Have the courage to act, to try, to feel exhausted, to push your limits, to blow your own mind with new ideas.
YOU are the first and most important friend to yourself : take care of you, find your strengths and affirm them to yourself on a daily basis, encourage yourself, reward yourself. You don’t need others to do it, if they don’t see your efforts and accomplishments it is because they don’t have the same goals as you have.
5. Control your emotions
“We are emotional, but you want to begin to discipline your emotions. If you don’t discipline and contain your emotions, they will use you!” says Les Brown. Fear, disappointment, the will to give up, regrets, feeling powerless, feeling worthless, frustration, envy, anxiety, humiliation, overwhelm – whatever negative emotion that you have, say it to yourself: “I’m not going to let this get me down! I’m not going to let this destroy me! I’m coming back and I’ll be stronger and better because of it! You have got to make a declaration! That this is what you stand for: you’re standing up for your dreams, you’re standing up for peace of mind, for your health! “( Les Brown ).
6. Fail and get back again
The most important thing in cultivating your motivation is to act. Action will give you strength, power, resilience and will test your limits. And most important, will get you out of your comfort zone and push your limits. And once you do that, there are 2 possibilities: you succeed or you fail. Failure is part of the process. You need to know that before you begin. By cultivating your abilities and by practice, you will have the power to get back on the track. Your desire for achieving your goals will be the drive and the power to focus will not let you give up. No one has succeeded by giving up. No excuse is accepted. Whenever you fail on your journey, try again, you won’t take it from scratch even if it seems so. Be flexible and open to new challenges and you will make it.
7. Take responsibility for your actions
Take responsibility for using your spare time for the benefit of your goals. Take responsibility for getting negative people out of your life. Take responsibility for accepting new challenges knowing you will have the power to overcome them. Take responsibility for your results. It is important to do this from the start in order to focus on what is meaningful and useful for you. It will be hard at the beginning but once you fight with yourself, you will arrive at destination.
8. Develop new skills
Learn, read, watch movies and gather materials that can help you develop. Information makes the differences. Skills will give you new opportunities, will help you make 1000 steps quicker than you do right now. Studying will bring you around people that share the same passions, the same goals, that can inspire you. Whether the are new language skills, soft skills, technical skills, everything happens for a reason. It will surely be useful at one time in your journey, and the more you have the easier it will be. Also, the satisfaction you get once you know you have learned something new will make you feel self-confident and creative.
9. Watch that inner conflict
When you begin this process, you will be facing yourself! And YOU will be your biggest and most frightful enemy. Your habits, negative emotions, lack of skills ( they are never too many ), being comfortable, your vocabulary, the use of your spare time, the people around you – many of these will need to be changed. You will feel like taking a break, you will want to do something else since it will become difficult, your mind will play with a lot of question marks: Is this right? What will others think? Why don’t you try the easy way? Is it worth it? Why not, just for 1 week, postpone every action, what can happen? Be focused on your goals and on your plan, don’t be distracted by your own mind.
10. Take care of your health
Whatever you wish for yourself, take care of your health! It will help you work better and do more efforts. It will help your mind work at full capacity and will make you feel the glory at maximum. You will feel good with yourself and it will be a positive accomplishment that you always have to think about. Don’t go at the doctor only when you feel sick, prevent yourself.
11. It is never too late to start!
“Ray Kroc Was 53 when he bought the McDonalds Franchise and took it to unprecedented levels.
Dr. Seuss was 54 when he wrote “The Cat in the Hat”.
Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger III was 57 years old when he successfully ditched US Airways Flight 1549 in the Hudson River in 2009. All of the 155 passengers aboard the aircraft survived.
Colonel Harland Sanders was 61 when he started the KFC Franchise.
J.R.R Tolkien was 62 when the Lord of the Ring books came out.
Ronald Reagan was 69 when he became President of the US.
Jack Lalane at age 70 handcuffed, shackled, towed 70 rowboats.
Nelson Mandela was 76 when he became President.” – Pablo.
What about your experiences? How do you get motivated? Share with us your thoughts so that we can learn together.
Movies and books abut traveling are so inspiring. The more you discover, the more you want to see.
Check this list of 5 films about travelling from which you will get your inspiration for new destinations or which will remind you of nice memories from your vacations.
“We leave something of ourselves behind when we leave a place, we stay there, even though we go away. And there are things in us that we can find again only by going back there.”
2. The Way (2010)
“You don’t choose a life. You live one.”
3. Nothing Personal (2009)
“It’s not for us to struggle after tiresome perfection.”
4. Latitudes (2014)
Captivating love story filmed in 8 different countries.
5. The Fault in our Stars (2014)
“That’s a thing about pain. It demands to be felt.”
Did you watch the movies? Which one did you like?
Check out its diversity Castles, five meters waves, history, wonderful beaches and nightlife. All of these and much more you will find just right the corner all over Lisbon. Contemporary, new architecture buildings on one side, as well as old city and old castles on the other side. We couldn’t decide which one we liked […]
Now that I have introduced you to Jim Rohn in the previous article , in case you didn’t know it before, I want to share to you the list of 20 books that everyone should read which Jim Rohn listed in his book “12 Pillars of Success”.
Want to know where to start? Jim Rohn recommends to start with “The Magic of Thinking Big”.
You can order them here : http://www.bookdepository.com/ .
What is your list? Did you read any of this books? Share with us your thoughts.
Considered one of the best personal development philosophers, Jim Rohn will always be a mentor for anyone starting the journey of discovering oneself and growing through personal development. He shared his principles, philosophies and experience for 46 years to millions of people all over the world through books, seminars, workshops, CDs, DVDs. Many of the world renowned motivational speakers and art of success authors refer to Jim Rohn as their mentor and true inspiration : Les Brown, Anthony Robbins, Mark Victor Hansen, Harvey Mackay as well as many others.
His guide “Five major pieces to life puzzle” explains the key elements that we need to focus on in order to achieve success. Find them here with a brief description, then read this exceptional practical book which will surely change your mindset!
Our philosophy is the foundation of the 5 key elements in our life. It is determined by our thoughts, ideas and information. These influence our behavior and habits, and from this point everything takes one direction or another. Our philosophy is the result of our knowledge and learning process and it is the luggage that we carry on during our journey in life. It is so important that before changing directions or choosing a different path in our life crossroads to understand and define our philosophy. The way we think and act make the journey endless as well as our reactions towards challenges and hard times are more important than the obstacles itself.
And how should we do this?
a. Learn! First, learn from your own experiences: your mistakes and failure are the alarms that indicate your need for change, otherwise the present and the future will the same as your past experiences. Second, learn from other people’s mistakes. Different people, same circumstances, different actions, different results. Don’t we need to analyse how one has succeeded and the other failed in the same situation? What was the difference? What were the ideas and thoughts that we need to add to our luggage to help us in our journey?
b. Listen to other people’s voices! People around us can influence our thoughts and actions. We can correct our mistakes, by people around us can easily see in us what we cannot see in ourselves. Positive or negative facts. The objective advises given by people we admire and we trust are valuable information which help us in discovering ourselves and setting up a healthy philosophy of life.
c. Follow positive influence! People around us have influenced our personality and character and always will. Why not seek for people who due to their experiences and achievements can inspire us and help us grow. You have the responsibility to choose deliberately who is your influence, why not a positive one?
d. Observe! What happens around us is also a direct or indirect influence. Once we have a goal and a plan, we need to protect it and stick to it. Therefore, we need to observe whatever happens that can harm us or help us: the industry, the government, our community, new challenges, new opportunities, new techniques, new instruments. Many people have succeeded because of their interest in what is happening throughout the day: great opportunities appear in events that may appear insignificant and others will ignore. Isn’t that amazing?
e. Read ! All the ideas, thoughts and inspiration that you need may be found in tones of books out there. What better way to change or develop your philosophy other than books that can change our lives, destiny, health, relationships, career, family etc.? Here you will find the list of 20 books that Jim Rohn recommends that everybody should read during their lifetime.
Once our philosophy builds our logic – thoughts and information – , attitude defines our emotions. Our feelings determine our behavior in social and business life and also an immense power that can drive us towards action or can paralyze us.
a. Attitude towards the past, the present and the future.
The past is our teacher. Nothing can be changed, you cannot fight it. So why not collect the happy memories, learn the lessons from bad experiences and close the doors to regrets, sadness and pricks of conscience. Use the past for collecting treasures that can help you now build the future.
Our past goals and perspectives gives us the life we are living in the present. The moment of today is not about yesterday or last year, it is about what is happening now. The greatest opportunity you have today is the opportunity to change. The present is about designing your future. Set new goals, embrace a positive attitude, have the tools from past experiences, act! This is about attitude, otherwise today will be the same as yesterday.
Attitude towards future is determined about our ability to see it. If you can imagine it, then your mind can realize it. Everything needs to be designed before it is done, needs to be imagined. It comes from an idea, we remodel and perfection it, then our thoughts, decisions and actions will transform it to reality.
This is why the positive attitude plays such an important role. When we see the past and the present from such a positive perspective, our mind will be creative and guide our steps towards our goals.
b. Attitude towards ourselves
The appreciation for ourselves is the beginning of success. We are all gifted with creative, spiritual and mental power. But not all of us know that.We spend time watching others’ achievements, we analyse their past, their plans, we appreciate them. But very few do this with themselves. Once we invest in ourselves by learning, reading, attending seminars, workshops, changing attitude towards past, present and future, we will discover the power within and we will be able to appreciate ourselves. Change the negative attitude you have about yourself and give yourself credit to grow.
c. People around us
People around have a major influence on our opinions and feelings. Evaluate their language, behavior and habits to see if they have a positive contribution in your life or a negative one. Their reputation, skills, knowledge, attitude towards hard work, honesty, personal development should help you grow or not? Are they continually unsatisfied with what is happening? Do they have a pessimistic approach by criticism towards everybody else? Analyse them and decide. You cannot have a positive attitude towards life if negative people surround you. It is not easy to let go your friends, but if you are strong and willing to change, you can change them and they will change others. This is an extraordinary process!
Through action, our philosophy and attitude get a meaning. All our knowledge, feelings and will to succeed apply through action. It gives us self confidence and self esteem and these are the real awards we get in the end. Not only the results matter but also the new person we have become.
a. It is better to act then to do nothing
We can choose to do nothing, to rest instead of work, fun instead of learning, doubt instead of self confidence, but if we do this we shouldn’t blame anybody for the results we have.
It is necessary not to talk about what you are going to do, but to act directly. Your attitude and knowledge will help you take the right decisions and act accordingly. Test your abilities through actions, learn and act again.
b. Have a plan, define your goals
A good plan is a simple plan. A noble goal and a simple plan create an ideal future. Don’t lose yourself in details, it will be impossible to plan all details and anticipate all the obstacles.
The journey towards success is not a fun trip, therefore we need to set a destination. Our goals will keep us on the track and will give us the power to overcome challenges.
c. Start with small steps
Doesn’t matter how small and insignificant our actions will appear, once they are disciplined and consistent they are the keys to new opportunities.
Results are the purpose of our actions. They also are the effect of our efforts and the opportunities we could embrace. In order to change results you need to change instruments, actions and yourself.
Take a good look at your assets and evaluate them: material assets ( home, car, bank accounts etc ), health, relationships ( family, friends ), reputation, experiences and how much you appreciate yourself. If your list of values is short, then you need to change something in your life. And start the process with setting up a goal, strengthening your philosophy, changing your attitude and go into action.
Lifestyle means doing ordinary stuff in a civilized and refined manner. It proves our evolution and shows our personality. It is about the way we dress, the cars we drive, the parties we attend .It is about discovering a new way to give joy, happiness and consistency to our lives and also to the ones we love.
Lifestyle is the result of living a spiritual life, based on emotional values, not on material goods. It is not the result of our professional efforts, but of our spiritual efforts.
Happiness is more the cause of success, not the result of it, therefore we can be happy whatever the material circumstances are. We need to live the present moment in order to be happy. Happiness is not for sale and it cannot be withdraw from a bank account. It is about participating lively to every moment of the day and let the feelings show. Whether it is about working, riding on bicycle, teaching your child to swim, being at a concert, be part of that moment and don’t mix things and thoughts.
If we want to be happy, we need to start thinking, feeling and acting as if we were happy. If we want to be rich, we need to start thinking, feeling and acting as if we were rich. Success is about attracting results of your kind.
What bout your plans and goals? What about your key elements in life? Did you read the book by Jim Rohn? Share with us your thoughts, i will be glad to see your comments.
As we all know, travelling is a great way to discover places,people and cultures. But also is one of the best ways to get to know yourself. Once you get out of your comfort zone, all the challenges and opportunities that you face become part of your personal development trace.
This is also the case of travelling as a couple. Making plans, being together in situations that put your limits at test, taking decisions together as well as sharing happiness – these are facts that will take your relationship to the next level.
Based on our experiences, here are 5 reasons that will make you grow as a couple once you travel together:
Setting goals is an important step up in your personal development plan. It also is the starting point for the growth of you two as a couple. It implies that both of you need, like, search and want the same goal. It is a major step in your relationship. It also means that the goal you settled will be reached only by you together, so the relationship is seen from a different perspective.
2. Cope and get to know each other
Facing difficult challenges as well sharing precious moments together will get to know yourself and your mate better. Having different and exciting activities, taking challenges and accepting each other’s limits will bring more trust and respect. Patience, understanding, caring for each other’s needs will bring your relationship to the next level.
3. Carpe diem!
In translation: Live the moment! Yes, travelling brings you this great chance to enjoy every moment at its best. The landscapes, the people you meet, the activities are all part of your experience you live together and which impact your lives and your relationship. And the more you get out of every moment spent together, the more you connect and enjoy whatever happens. Whether funny, exciting, romantic or sad experiences, you are in that moment and this will give you the most true and alive feelings.
4. Discover,learn and live the romance
Travelling as a couple means spending almost of all your time together. Learning and educating yourselves at the same time discovering new places and new activities are values invested in your relationship, values that are countless. Since being on vacation means cutting off from work or other daily tasks, there is room for cultivating an important feature of your relationship: romance. Romance and affection bring you balance and harmony.
5. Create history together
Whatever you are going through on a trip, at the end it is all part of you and part of your memories together. All the experiences lived are ones of you together and also reasons for you to think how much your relationship developed after such a period.
Travelling as a couple means gathering experiences together that will make you never want to be apart. Plans, experiences,memories – these will make you grow individually and as a couple.